Make a date
Think scheduled sex is boring? Not necessarily. There's a common assumption that spontaneous sex is best, but "planned encounters help build anticipation and relieve tension within your relationship," Mintz says.
Get a sitter and head out for date night, play hooky from work, or make time for sex when the kids are at a friend's house, for example.
Adds Brisben, "Scheduling sex is great for someone who loves to make a 'to-do' list. You know you're not going to sleep until that box is checked off. Plus, it'll establish a pattern of healthy sexual behavior. They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. Once that habit is formed, you won't want to go to sleep unless you've had sex."
Just do it
It can be tough to feel aroused when all you want to do it sleep. But stick with it.
Like other forms of exercise, "sex can give you an energetic buzz," Levine says. "You just have to be willing to push past the feeling of tiredness to experience the pleasure that will ultimately recharge you.
"If you shift your schedule so you get enough sleep and reprioritize your day to the essentials," Levine says, "being tired doesn't have to be a factor that influences your sex life."
And remember, sex begets sex. Once you get back into the swing of things, you're likely to start wanting to get -- and stay -- intimate more often. When you wake up and smell the coffee, it will smell all the better for having had sex the night before.