True or False: Boundaries can cause stress
True: If boundaries are causing you stress – you may show signs of being a “people pleaser” and have trouble saying no “You get what you allow”.
Boundaries represent how available you are:
*Externally (to others)
*Internally (to your own thoughts/emotions)
Here are some take-aways to help: ILA
1) Identify: Do a shoulder check to see what you need,
2) Label: What is the emotion? are you feeling stressed? Sad? Angry?
3) Act: With others, Ask for your needs. With yourself, use STOP.
Research shows that using the word STOP and putting up your hand signals to your brain to step back