All the things not to say to a parent experiencing miscarriage, infant loss

Story of Brittany Osborne’s stillborn son, Jacob, will make you think twice

Photo used with permission from Brittany Osborne

Each October marks another National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, intended to honor and remember those who have lost a child during pregnancy or infancy.

Just this week, celebrity couple Chrissy Teigen and John Legend broke the silence around miscarriages after announcing they had lost their child following pregnancy complications.

Maybe you know someone who has lost a baby or experienced a miscarriage -- or maybe that person is you. It goes without saying that this can be an incredibly painful time. People grieve in their own ways, so if you’re trying to be supportive for someone else, consider what the parent or parents would prefer. If you’re an immediate family member, maybe your presence will be needed or wanted. Otherwise, the couple might just want some space. Either way, and no matter your relation to the parent or parents, we want to help guide you as a support person.

For starters, we’ve compiled a list of things not to say.

Sometimes it can feel awkward to stay quiet and easier to fill the air with words.

But if you don’t have the right ones, it’s probably best to keep it simple and instead be a listening ear.

Again, these are comments you DON’T want to make:

'Everything happens for a reason.'


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